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Where to meet halfway between Harlem and Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley

Harlem and Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley are about 1.6 miles apart. The fairest first date spots are around Harlem, roughly 0.8 miles from each of you. For a drink, try LoLo's Seafood Shack; for coffee, Double Dutch Espresso.

For drinks

Ordered so neither of you has the longer trip by much. Miles are as the crow flies.

  1. LoLo's Seafood Shack

    Bar

    0.8 mi from Harlem · 0.7 mi from Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley

    ~1 min from 116 St (C B)MapWebsite

  2. Mess Hall Harlem

    Bar

    0.7 mi from Harlem · 0.8 mi from Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley

    ~2 min from 116 St (C B)MapWebsite

  3. Harlem L Lounge

    Lounge

    0.9 mi from Harlem · 0.7 mi from Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley

    ~2 min from 116 St (C B)MapWebsite

  4. Under Bar

    Lounge

    0.9 mi from Harlem · 0.7 mi from Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley

    ~3 min from 116 St (C B)MapWebsite

  5. Vinateria

    Wine bar

    0.7 mi from Harlem · 0.9 mi from Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley

    ~3 min from 116 St (C B)MapWebsite

For coffee

  1. Double Dutch Espresso

    Coffee shop

    0.7 mi from Harlem · 0.8 mi from Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley

    ~2 min from 116 St (C B)MapWebsite

  2. Amaretto Espresso Bar

    Café

    0.9 mi from Harlem · 0.7 mi from Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley

    ~3 min from 116 St (C B)MapWebsite

  3. Elma's in Harlem

    Café

    0.9 mi from Harlem · 0.7 mi from Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley

    ~3 min from 116 St (C B)MapWebsite

  4. Frederick Café Bistro

    Café

    0.9 mi from Harlem · 0.6 mi from Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley

    ~4 min from 116 St (C B)MapWebsite

  5. Sojourner Coffee

    Coffee shop

    0.8 mi from Harlem · 0.9 mi from Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley

    ~3 min from 116 St (2 3)Map

Or meet on one side

If one of you doesn’t mind the trip, each neighborhood has its own list.

HarlemManhattan · 28 bars · 24 coffee spotsUpper West Side & Manhattan ValleyManhattan · 13 bars · 10 coffee spots

Questions

People also ask

Where is halfway between Harlem and Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley?

The two are about 1.6 miles apart as the crow flies. The spots where both of you travel about the same distance are mostly around Harlem.

What’s a good first date spot between Harlem and Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley?

LoLo's Seafood Shack is 0.8 mi from Harlem and 0.7 mi from Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley. Mess Hall Harlem is another fair choice for drinks. For coffee, Double Dutch Espresso works for both of you.

Why meet in the middle for a first date?

Neither person carries the whole trip, so it reads as considerate rather than convenient for one side. Suggest the place with both travel times in mind, and offer to swap it if it doesn’t suit them.

More places to meet halfway

East Harlem ↔ Harlem1.1 mi apart · fair spots in betweenHarlem ↔ Upper West Side2.4 mi apart · fair spots in betweenHarlem ↔ Upper East Side & Yorkville2.5 mi apart · fair spots in betweenHarlem ↔ Washington Heights2.5 mi apart · fair spots in betweenBelmont ↔ Harlem4.3 mi apart · fair spots in betweenEast Harlem ↔ Upper West Side & Manhattan Valley1.4 mi apart · fair spots in between

How this list is made: spots are open, independent cafés, bars and restaurants, chosen for being close to the subway and on blocks with plenty of other places nearby. Nobody pays to be listed. Distances are straight-line and walking times are estimates, so check opening hours before you go. Updated 2026-10-13. Data: Places: Overture Maps Foundation (CDLA-Permissive-2.0); 2020 Neighborhood Tabulation Areas, NYC Department of City Planning (NYC Open Data); MTA Subway Stations (data.ny.gov); Parks Properties, NYC Parks (NYC Open Data).