What to say after “we should hang out sometime”
By the Breve team · Updated
The short answer
Reply with a specific plan straight away. “We should hang out sometime” is a yes without a date attached, so attach one: suggest a place, a day and a time in your next message. If you leave “sometime” unanswered, it almost always becomes never.
Why “sometime” stalls
“We should hang out sometime” sounds positive, and usually is. But it leaves every decision open — where, when, whose turn to suggest — and nobody wants to be the one to push. So both people wait, the conversation moves on, and the plan quietly evaporates.
The person who turns “sometime” into “Thursday at 7” is doing both of you a favour.
How to reply
Agree enthusiastically
Match their energy in a few words — “I’d love that.”
Propose one concrete plan
A place (or type of place), a day and a time. One option, or two days at most.
Make countering easy
A short “or tell me what works for you” keeps it relaxed.
Replies you can send
Let’s make “sometime” Thursday — drinks around 7? I know a good spot near you.
I’d like that. Wednesday or Saturday? I can suggest somewhere in between us.
Deal. How about coffee Sunday late morning — or if weekdays are better, name one.
I said we should hang out and then didn’t follow through, so: are you free Thursday evening for a drink?
If they dodge the specifics
If you suggest a time and get another vague “yeah, sometime!”, try once more with two options. If that gets dodged too, they’re either busy or not that interested — and either way, the ball is now clearly in their court.
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Questions
People also ask
Does “we should hang out sometime” mean they’re interested?
Usually, yes — but it’s a soft signal. The way to find out is to suggest a specific plan and see how they respond.
How soon should I reply with a plan?
In your very next message. The longer “sometime” sits there, the less likely it is to happen.